The 5 Love Languages of Children - by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell




my notes:

An infant can’t distinguish between milk and tenderness.

A mature adult can give and receive appreciation through all the love languages.

A child reaps the benefits of affirming words for a lifetime.

Children think we believe what we say.

Give praise for something the child can control.

Children know when praise is justified and when it’s to make them feel good.

All children are guided by someone.

The words “I Love You” should always stand alone in reality or by implication.

Children feel lack of eye contact as disapproval.

You schedule other people into your calendars - why not your children?

The English word GIFT from the greek word charis, which means “grace.”

Don’t let advertisers determine what you buy your child.

Loving service is an internally motivated desire to give one’s energy to others.

Make it your goal that your children will learn to be comfortable in serving others.

Discipline comes from a greek word that means ‘to train’

For effective discipline, keep the child’s emotional love tank full.

When a child feels genuinely sorry, He has learned and repented; his conscience is alive and well.

A child can fall behind emotionally.

Emotional maturity is the ability to control anxiety, stress, and maintain balance during times of change.

Both you and your child can’t take responsibility for the same thing at the same time.

Anger is a normal human reaction. It’s neither good nor bad.

Children can’t leave the passive-aggressive stage until they learn other ways to replace the behavior.

Children have two options - verbal or behavioral expression, and both are difficult to handle.

Many parents respond to children’s expressions of anger in destructive ways.

Your children have no defense against parental anger. When you dump your anger on them, it goes right down inside them.

Children of any age will naturally express anger in immature ways.

A child that has normal anger is able to be trained.

Let them know that you always want to know how they’re feeling.

A child that brings verbal anger to you has done some right things and avoided some wrong ones.

Speak your child’s love language, leave their tank filled, and watch them develop into a loving and responsible adult who knows how to process anger and helps other people do the same.